We loved, we lost, we loved again and lost again. We love him, we hate him, we love him, we miss him. Oh how we want this to work. There are so many good things about our ex. So many wonderfully beautiful qualities about them. Our hearts are torn. Surely we can make this work, right? Wrong.
There are many reasons why you should never go back to your ex but I’ll list only 4 of them here.
1. Why didn’t it work out the first time?
The truth is something was wrong last time. It had to be. You don’t break up for no reason. They cheated, you fell out of love, they weren’t the person you thought they were, they stopped going to the gym, one of you fell for someone else, they wouldn’t close the toothpaste cap… something had to happen to make you break up.
2. You may just be desperate/lonely
The longer you are single or abstinent; the better your ex’s start to look. You remember the sex to be better than it was, and you remember the problems to be easier to get over than they are.
Just because you listen to your Taylor Swift CD of 1989 on repeat doesn’t mean you miss them, it means you miss someone and something. You just want to feel something again.
But 99% of the time, they aren’t the answer. So suck it up and keep doing your own thing until something fresh comes along.
3. The Break-Up Plagues The Back Of Your Mind
You broke up, remember? Of course you remember. That’s all you thought about for weeks or months, depending on how long you dated. You most likely pouted around for a bit, or you went and slept with a bunch of people. Grieving happens in different ways! (No judgments.) Either way, when you get back together, the break up will always be there. It happened and you won’t forget about it. So it’s almost like you can see the doomsday, but you just don’t know when. It’s hard to come back from that.
4. The Baggage Just Keeps Growing.
The longer you toy with this not so brilliant idea of getting into something you shouldn’t (AGAIN), the more baggage you are acquiring. When you eventually move on, you have to add it to your dating resume. You resume bullet will say “Got back together with ex. Willingly walked into an additional 3 month emotional roller-coaster because I’m a dumbass and don’t listen to my friends.” Good luck with that.
Life has no guarantees. And sure, you have a slim chance at working it through with your ex. But make sure you think about why it ended, and how it ended. Can you come back from that? Will it ever be the same? I’m no Miss Cleo, so I can’t tell you the future. But what I can tell you is that you should move on. I always prefer fresh food to leftovers.
[P.S: The caption under the first picture was a reference to the song Back To You by Selena Gomez which was also featured in the Netflix show, “13 Reasons Why.”]